Monday, February 13, 2017

SEVEN WAYS TO SHOW LOVE

I know I just did a Seven ways to improve your life for eternity but since tomorrow's Valentines Day I'm doing another. This is seven ways to show love. I thought of it while reading one of my devotionals this morning;

Want of Love will block the way. You must love all. Those that fret you and those who do not.
Practice Love. It is a great lesson, and you have a great Teacher. You must love, how otherwise can you dwell in Me, when nothing unloving can come? Practice this and I will bless you exceedingly, above all you cannot only ask, but imagine.    "God Calling"

 A few of these (Yes just a few!) might have saved my marriage and I'm trying desperately to show my kids what love is because many of our family members have set such a poor example! For some people whose relationships are good, you know this stuff, good for you, keep it up! Some people just seem dense, who knows? Perhaps they'll read this and wake up! Just a small dose of love will lower your blood pressure and improve and probably lengthen your life! Just TRY THESE.

1. Smile. Just be courteous and polite!
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely....I Corinthians 13:4-5a
2. Look them in the eye and listen! Show some respect!
Love...does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil....I Corinthians 13:5b
3. Call, write or go see people! The Bible says, Jesus went about doing good (Matthew 9:35). He called on people!
Love calls for putting forth some effort. Since my mom's gone, the other 3 remaining grandparents although in great health don't visit their grandchildren and I feel this is very sad. They are now no longer involved in their grandchildren's lives, except on the occasion that one of us parents takes them to see them and these visits are getting few and far between, not to mention awkward. We hardly know these people anymore.
4. Encourage the one you love in their personal interests and gifts.
If your child plays soccer, you go to their games right? Well duh!? If they graduate from anything, go to their ceremony! If they get an award, go see them receive it. If they get married and invite you- GO! If they don't invite you, might want to find out why.





5. Remember their birthday, anniversary and any important date to them. It would be nice to get a hug on April 14th it was a hard day in 2009, my mom died. I was very sad on June 7th 2016 as it was Bob and I's 30th wedding Anniversary and we're divorcing. I was with my kids, yet they showed me no compassion, not a hug or anything. This is one reason why the marriage is over, noone saw it as important, recognized it, acknowledged it. We never even went away somewhere for longer than a night or two even out of the state of Georgia! We were supposed to go on a cruise for our 25th Wedding Anniversary in 2011 but we never did.
6. Compliment them, tell them what they've done right! I've heard nothing as of late, nothing, how this hole split up can be blamed on me is so insane. WHAT did I do? Cook too well? Spent all the money on that big house I had to build right? NOPE I cheated? Nope, had plenty of opportunities to but I didn't. I'm on drugs? Nope Oh I'm crazy, that's right. I'm BiPolar that has to be a crime right? I got angry! OMG! That's it. Totally unacceptable to get angry when you're disrespected and treated like shit! NOT. I'm not saying I was perfect but I feel as though all I did right is forgotten and not appreciated anymore.
7. Forgive: I was willing to forgive him for treating me badly all these years. He used to get mad at me for the stupidest little stuff like buying the kids soda or taking them to McDonalds- it was crazy! But you can't forgive someone and continue the relationship without them admitting they were wrong and wanting to stop the wrong things they said and did. If you let them continue (And I did this for many years) it's called enabling and they get worse and you get bitter. The way to get better, I've finally realized is to FORGIVE yes but also to LET GO and MOVE ON. Many people lose jobs and are unemployed it is NOT an acceptable reason to leave someone. And yes he was the one who LEFT but then he wanted his big fricken house and his kids back, so he came back and then I left. 

Oh and if someone gives you some food? Even if it wasn't good (But I know it was!) you would say, THANK-YOU ASAP right? Tell them it was good, that was so thoughtful of you.....ETC Not say NOTHING. Recently this happened to me three times! It's not just my ex and my kids, people are just SO RUDE and I don't have time, so no more homemade goodies for ya all- sorry! My Mom, their grandma would roll over in her grave at ya all's BAD MANNERS! Shame on you!


And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
I Corinthians 13:13




Here is a poem I wrote about love from my book, "The Seven Story Tree"


Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed. Proverbs 27:5

The Fool
I'm so crazy, I shouldn't have said anything.
Even a fool is considered wise if he holds his tongue
Well whatever,
I'll be a fool for you.
Jesus wants us to talk about Him,
Share the hope that lies within
Better open rebuke than hidden love
So say it
Love like I'm not scared
Give when it's not fair
Love Him- love others
Live for your brothers, sisters
I am second, third, last
I will not leave this place until I'm made a fool
Fight for the weak ones
Speak out for freedom
He came and made Himself a fool for me
Truth has a way of breaking through
It can set them free
Someone set free because of me?
Just one life is worth the world entire
I will not regret saying the truth that
I believe and feel
For just one to know His love can make them real



SEVEN WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE FOR ETERNITY

1. Seek God
 You can learn about God by reading the Bible and praying is also a great idea. I wrote before about getting back to the basics.
And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:13
Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7

2. Learn discipline. 
#1 helps with this because in Galatians 5:22-23 it says that a fruit of the Spirit is "self-control"
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11 Is there a bad habit you need to quit? As Zach Williams sings, If you got CHAINS  He's a CHAIN BREAKER. 

3. Be positive! Do you want people to like you? Stop being a Debbie Downer! I Corinthians 13 says Love always looks for the best. Keep it on the sunny side! When we go see ladies at jail we can't look at their charges (On a list we have) and say, "Oh looks like you're going to prison" We're there to ENCOURAGE them. We're not their lawyers or judges. I'm not even in jail and I need encouragement, how much more do these ladies? I've had enough discouragement over the last 3 years with the ending of a 30 year relationship and my kids hating on me for really no good reason, if I start hearing negative stuff like, don't expect to make a living writing, better ask for more money (alimony) or you'll be living under a bridge, better take a writing course one "friend" said......Good bye and Good riddance! As they say, "With friends like that who needs enemies?" I dealt with 30 years of negativity! I'm ready to hang with some people who are positive and believe in me!

4. Stay focused on your goals and be intentional.
Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Philippians 3:12

Let your eyes look right on [with fixed purpose], and let your gaze be straight before you. Consider well the path of your feet, and let all your ways be established and ordered aright. Turn not aside to the right hand or to the left; remove your foot from evil. Proverbs 4:25-27



This verse even seems to encourage writing your goals down, doesn't it?
“Write the vision
And make it plain on tablets,
That he may run who reads it.
For the vision is yet for an appointed time;
But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it;
Because it will surely come,
It will not tarry..." Habakkuk 2:2-3


5. Have faith and hope in God:
But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. SEEK HIM like #1 
But the just shall live by his faith. Habakkuk 2:4 and Romans 1:17 Did you know many things are repeated in the Bible? Pay attention! These things are important!

Lately I see that when I lose faith that leads me right into SIN. Like worrying, you know worrying is a sin, right? 
Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?  Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?  Matthew 6:25-26
God wants us to TRUST HIM. When I say, Oh I'll never be able to lose weight, that leads me right into a binge. Gluttony is a sin, just like drunkenness is! When I lose my faith and hope I want to GIVE UP.   
Never, never, never give up. Winston Churchill
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 Churchill was right, we should NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVE UP!

6. Work hard! 
Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; Ecclesiastes 9:10
In all labor there is profit, But idle chatter leads only to poverty. Proverbs 14:23
I work harder than many people with "real jobs" do! Please don't ask a stay at home mom if she "works" it's just rude! Say, "Do you work outside the home?" or something like that. She works very hard, she perhaps got woke up at 3:00am fed the baby, changed her diaper made lunch(es) and done a load of laundry all before you got out of bed!

7. SEEK HIM Oh did I already say that? It's that important. Just do it! Everything else will fall into place.
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Matthew 6:33

Other posts in this series: 
SEVEN STEPS TO A STUPEDOUS (LIFE) STORY  
SEVEN WAYS TO SHOW LOVE 
Never, never, never give up.
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Never, never, never give up.
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Never, never, never give up. Winston Churchill
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Thursday, February 2, 2017

SEVEN STEPS TO A STUPEDOUS (LIFE) STORY





I'm really going to do it this time! Shorter, weekly blog posts! For those of you who know already, my favorite number is seven to read all the reasons why see The Seven Story House . This blog used to be called, "The Seven Story House", until I changed it to Redheaded Writing Hood in 2015. Please also consider getting a copy of my first book, The Seven Story Tree.






So I'm going to do weekly posts that are "Seven Steps....." or "Seven Ways...." ETC Perhaps I'll continue this for seven weeks? Or seven months? Or seven years? Who knows?


I already have one old blog post called, SEVEN STEPS TO VICTORY


Here are some ideas for what's coming up:


SEVEN WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE FOR ETERNITY 


SEVEN WAYS TO SHOW LOVE


SEVEN WAYS TO KNOW GOD


SEVEN WAYS TO HEAR GOD


SEVEN WAYS TO REMEMBER GOD



SEVEN STEPS TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE


SEVEN STEPS TO STUDYING YOUR BIBLE


SEVEN STEPS TO FREEDOM


SEVEN STEPS TO FACING YOUR FEARS


SEVEN WAYS TO PRAISE GOD


SEVEN STEPS TO KNOWING YOUR CALLING


SEVEN STEPS TO FORGIVING PEOPLE ETC........OK ready set go!

Saturday, November 12, 2016

King and Crown Poem


This is from my "King of Hearts" series Part 3: Who Holds Your Heart
And it's also in my book The Seven Story Tree




They canceled Poetic Peace :-( Here's the poem I was going to say. I was already contemplating getting my crown tattoo when this poem just "happened" and don't worry about who it's about, k? It's fiction! Lol

BTW This poem (And my tattoo) is based on Psalm 45:
So the King will greatly desire your beauty; Because He is your Lord, worship Him. (Verse 11)

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Fixing Holes


I'm taking the time for a number of things
That weren't important yesterday....The Beatles




So what an awesome day I had! I had an interview this morning. I think it went well, we will see.


So I had a "Message from God" tonight that said:

Today we believe God wants us to know that encouragement is important.

Everybody needs to be encouraged, including you. Keep doing the best you can, you've got what it takes and you are going to make it. Remember to encourage others to pursue their own dreams. Build each other up, encouragement is important.


It IS! And today was encouraging. Except for that lady at the pool but on an up note I've cleared out so many negative people from my life! And that is so awesome! Unbelievable that this very lady I see at the pool used to be my best friend! That's how messed up I used to be! So used to negative people that I kept befriending them! You know that old saying, "With friends like that, who needs enemies"? Yeah, been there done that and I'm done with all that!!!! Thank you Jesus! Free at last!!!!


See the people standing there
Who disagree and never win
And wonder why they don't get in my door


Things are different for me lately and I'm getting used to it all. And IT IS GOOD!

Here's a post from May 2015 about how my life used to be: It's Just Another Day


After my interview I had an appointment with my therapist. I really like her. I won't have to go see her for always but while going through this rough patch I do. She only has to listen to me for 45 mins per session and she confirms many things for me. She does NOT encourage me to be a bitch as she's been accused of. In fact she's said many times if we (Bob and I) could stay together and work things out that is what her goal as a "Marriage and Family Therapist" IS. Yet he would nod his head at her and not do a thing she said. He continued to let our son disrespect me, belittle me, accuse me and let him run the house. I finally decided really after only a month of that that I needed to move out. It was all I could do. The last and only consequence I had left. I couldn't do anything and I was miserable! Like a prisoner in my own house I no longer even controlled where my furniture went or my trash can! I was told (repeatedly) I was a terrible house keeper and mother! 


So Sad, So Sad,
Sometimes She Feels So Sad.

I couldn't stop giving him money as his dad would give it to him. I couldn't kick him out or call the cops, so I just had to move out. My therapist was telling me to stay but when it became more and more violent (I was NOT beat up but he kept breaking things to intimidate me) she said I should leave, which confirmed what I had already decided.

And it really doesn't matter if
I'm wrong I'm right
Where I belong
.....

  
After my therapist I went to Biolife to give blood plasma. This is easy, it saves lives and they pay me! So it's all around a good thing. This thing I do was also criticized! Like giving blood makes me like a prostitute?! I NEEDED to get away from this craziness!!!! 



After Biolife I had a late lunch (Or was it an early dinner?) with a real Christian friend I hadn't seen in too long! Shana, she's a writer like me and one of the two actual followers of this blog!!!! HINT HINT FOLLOW ME PLEASE!!!! Why had I not seen Shana in so long? Part of the reason was my Codependant self was still so busy trying to save the world and "fix" all these dysfunctional people
that I didn't even have time for a healthy REAL friendship. I had too many friends I let USE me all the time. They hardly ever gave back to me. No wonders I always felt empty. My own husband left me lonely and starving for real affection and connection.

                                        Shana gave me a house warming gift! I love it!

While I have more time to myself I'm learning so much! The internet esp YouTube is so educational! I'm learning how to fix the holes in my popcorn ceiling. And also learning more about my Codependent self. Ross Rosenberg has renamed Codependency, Self  Love Deficit Disorder. That so resonates with me and why I'm learning to focus on me, not to be selfish but to heal. I totally lost myself taking care of everyone else! Sometimes I didn't even know what I wanted!

I also love love love this lady: Lisa A Romano

Oh and also want to plug this awesome young lady; Angie Atkinson

I used to be so concerned about what people thought of me I was scared to say anything! Now I write stuff like Me Too!  and I don't care that people may misunderstand and think I'm stuck up or narcissistic (which I also have been accused of! OK Whatever dude!). These things are why I so love my Megan Trainor album, THANK-YOU because it has songs on it about loving yourself like I Love Me. 


They gon' say all kinds of things
They'll make jokes about my name
They gon' try to clip my wings, but I'm gon fly, I'm gon' fly
They'll try to play me like a game
I'll bet they're too scared of the fame
But I can see clear when looking at the mirror, saying God made me just right



I also love this one by Demi Lovato: What's wrong with being confident?

So you say I'm complicated
That I must be outta my mind
But you've had me underrated
Rated, rated

And then after getting caught up with Shana, I went home and spent some time with my puppy, Bandie and then I went to the Cantrell Center to swim a mile. Cause I'm a mermaid!

So maybe your wondering what the negative talk was about? (at the pool) Totally unhelpful and not encouraging this lady had to bring up (because she's a very prejudiced  person) that if I got the other  job that I was after (not the one I interviewed for today) I would have to cover my tattoos Well, know what? Perhaps I don't even want that job after all? I'm not even sure I do now, but not that this person is going to make me NOT pursue this job anymore because I am! I will keep you posted!

*New note: OK so while I do not like the fact that I may have to cover my tattoos, it makes me all the more sure, that God will not have me stay in these jobs long term, unless that is they free me to be ME!


How could I forget?! I said my Ginger Me poem  for our (awesome redheaded) waitress and she bought a copy of my book! Yay me! You too may get a copy of my book on Amazon: The Seven Story Tree
 Or by e-mailing me at: seven7storyshi@outlook.com

And the Story goes on.....
It comes slowly with every step I take toward obedience to Him
Peace- Joy- Contentment- acceptance of myself
I am NOT unworthy
I am NOT worthless
I am NOT undeserving
I am NOT fat
I have a job with God
I take care of what He blesses me with....


Luck-Chance- Fate?

I believe
It's all in His hands
Mordica just happened to be
In the right place to set his people free
Esther won the heart of the king
Because God made her heart like His
God gives favor or popularity
And not more than it should be
Perhaps you took the glory for yourself?
And that's why He put you on the shelf



The Perfect  Day....
God has me on this journey to Freedom
I'm changing from glory to glory
Til that perfect day
It's like the Underground Railroad
The farther North I get the freer I become...
More Peace, more Joy, more Love
More Power, More of You (Jesus)  in my life!
Less dysfunction and destruction
I am under construction
I will worship You with all my might
The people in darkness have seen a great light
It shines brighter and brighter til the Perfect Day
My tombstone like Ruth's can say,
Construction over- Thank you for your patience!
Those who are first shall be last
Those who humble themselves will be exalted
He who lays his life down- will find it
The lost will be found
The poor will be rich
The cursed shall be blest
The tired can rest
The hungry outcast will come in
And sit at His table
Eat and be satisfied
And his enemies shall see it
Always and Forever His child I shall be!